Sexual Abuse Unspoken

Adolescence. A time that should be cherished as exciting and new.  A time when young women and men need guidance and support as they make the transition into adulthood.

On the bright side, it isn’t acceptable to marry off your daughter to a man 20 or more years her senior, or to commit an act of physical mutilation as in some cultures, however many  teen girls in our part of the world suffer other forms of psychological torture. Things they are not emotionally equipped to deal with that scar them for life.

I remember when puberty arrived. I was thirteen years old.  I remember the men, mostly married and much older than me,  starting to pay me a lot of attention. I felt uncomfortable and confused. No one talked about it.  Whether it was the husband driving me home after babysitting, with alcohol on his breath, or the ugly fat bald man at the mall where I hung out with my friends on Saturday.  It was creepy. I felt self-conscious but I hadn’t developed any social skills or self defense mechanisms


I had an urge to scream but I was sitting on a bus surrounded by people. What would they think? What would I think?

This had never happened to me before.

Whatever anger I had experienced in my life, it was certainly well buried in my unconscious mind.

I didn’t even know it was there.

That was why it would take me so long to react and respond if something terrible happened.  When I felt hurt or disappointed by someone I didn’t know how to process anger.  And now something had happened to me that was so big, so overwhelming, so much more than one single incident, that I could really feel this burning edge inside me.

Talking about what had happened,  even with my best friends didn’t help. They looked confused.  It felt like it was too much.  It was so negative, so disheartening, that finally I just had to stop talking about it.

I stayed single for five years.

I met a new friend at a job where I was doing massage.  She did energy healing and we decided to do a few trades with each other.  Sue did two sessions with me using a modality similar to the emotion code.  I admit that initially I was very skeptical.

But as I could literally feel her pull out chunks of blocked energy from my body as I lay there crying like a baby,  I no longer had doubts.

Afterwards I was tired, but the next day I could feel that my energy had shifted.

I am open now.

I feel positive and grateful in life.



When Innocence is Lost

Some women remember their first experience when the world was presented as no longer a loving and safe place. Some of us remember something that shocked and hurt us. For some women though, as children or as teens, they will remember incident after incident that left them damaged, hurt, confused and alone.

My first experience was when I was so young that I can not remember it. Maybe there were many.  I don’t know.  Our minds and bodies protect us this way. We can NOT remember anything but we know things happened. On a deep level we know.

The emotion code is helpful with this because it allows us to release those trapped unconscious memories without having to remember anything.

I had a session.  I felt split open and the tears and the trauma just flowed out of me.  I didn’t need to know what happened. That was the beauty of it all. And that is why I think this form of healing is perfect for dealing with trauma. Some traumas are best left forgotten.

Some women feel they have armour.  Some women have attitude… a protective shell that is more subtle.. Some women are teetering on a line between reality and the abyss of insanity. It’s hard to move forward.  How do we trust when our innocence has been stolen, or destroyed?

I remember the therapists I saw. I don’t think they helped me so much. They had too many of their own issues or secrets and they couldn’t help but project them on me. How do we get to the heart of the matter and release the pain so we can move on and feel open and loving again?  It is about us and not about anyone else.

The dirty smear needs to be cleaned off. The toxic energy needs to be lifted. The anger and confusion need to subside. We must feel whole and strong again.

Maybe the innocence will never be  what it was before those awful things happened, but our hearts can be pure again. We can love ourselves and know it wasn’t our fault. We can love the people around us more easily because we feel more gentle inside. We can go back to what we were and what we were meant to be.

Bless you.

Violence Against Women

Hi Kara,

I am writing from Vancouver. I received a treatment from you a week or so ago. You treated me for trauma with energy work and the emotion code.

I wanted to thank you so much, and let you know that I found our session to be very healing, and I really appreciated it. I have the utmost respect for your work and after months of trying different counsellors, one session with you changed how I felt my trauma was attached to my body-my body pain improved and emotionally I felt so much lighter.

Thank-you so much.