The new porn industry is accessible like never before and amateur based. There is an excellent documentary on this by Rashida Jones on Netflix titled Hot Girls Wanted. It was informative, and I was disturbed by what I saw for weeks afterwards. Hey, there is nothing wrong with consenting adults exploring kink or bondage or whatever interests them, but what this documentary deals with is the influence of porn on mens’ preference for sex or their preference in the first place which influences how porn is created, both of which are completely degrading to women. And for the women who have signed up to make money in the porn industry, whether they are operating their own biz from home and cashing in on a lucrative market, or being torn and semi-strangled on camera, they are also responsible for feeding this beast that continues to keep women subjugated and disrespected.
When Fifty Shades of Grey came out first as a novel and then as a movie, it was a real hit with women. I know this confused some of my male friends who thought women should have been offended by the S&M theme. For me it represented the romantic fantasy formula used by Harlequin Romance novels with a sexual edge added for excitement and controversy. The Harlequin story goes like this, a young attractive inexperienced innocent and pure woman with integrity falls for a rich bastard who for some reason never married or had any children, and after he tortures her with his cruelty and cynicism ends up falling in love with her and becoming a more sensitive and kind person. He of course never looks or desires other women and they live happily ever after. Wait a minute. Isn’t this just another version of a fairy tale? Except those princes never tied anybody up or abused them. They were just rich and she was just beautiful. Much more simple. When will women stop submitting in order to feel loved by men? It’s not about sex play or eroticism or pornography. It’s about power and inequality. How much “love” is there when women don’t give in to men’s expectations or demands? Ask yourself, is this what I really want and be true to yourself.