Something can just happen that changes us forever. If it is a traumatic event, then all of our defences kick in and create a stress response in the body that can easily become a lifelong pattern. Any semblance of threat that is similar becomes a trigger to elicit the original response. Real or not, the body can not decipher the difference. All it knows is to release all those hormones to prepare for the fight or flight survival response. Different people respond in different ways. Some people need to keep stress at abnormally high levels all the time just to feel normal. Others may just avoid stress altogether by using drugs and/or alcohol, others re-create trauma by becoming the abuser, and some people just splinter off creating drama and chaos everywhere so they never have to feel anything real. Underlying all of these patterns though is a a type of vigilance that was activated and never was shut off. It is the same survival mechanism we would use in the wild for our survival, fight or flight is life or death. Calming our neurological system is the only way to move past the triggers that keeps us trapped in the trauma response indefinitely. Hands on work is best for many but for those of us who can’t trust enough to be touched, the emotion code is a nice option. Look at my webpage karadetracey.com if you want more information.