It happens. Our emotions explode and the anger seeps out. Damage is done. Words and actions can not be taken back after we pull out our weapons in a moment of lost conscientiousness. In hindsight we can analyse what the precipitating factors were that allowed us to unleash our poison, usually well contained, onto the soul of another. We know our sensitivities and values and hold them dear to us like a newborn baby. We may try our best to be rational and controlled when these things are threatened, but a myriad of events and conditions can unhinge us. Being stressed, feeling tired or vulnerable, feeling attacked, grieving other losses, or maybe just not being at optimal health, can all be contributing factors to not adhering to our usual social standards. Being kind to ourselves after the fact and taking responsibility for our actions is imperative in overcoming and deleting our blind spots. Every mistake is an opportunity to break old negative patterns that do not serve us. And in preventing a recurrence we must be diligent about how we communicate our needs for love and respect from others.