There have been times in my life when I had a secret fantasy that someone would save me. A handsome stranger would just come along, sweep me off my feet and we would live happily- ever -after. It was so fucked up! I don’t even know exactly where this came from.
Despite getting a University education and having a Mother who never talked about getting married and having children, I obviously was lacking something. It was a desperate and yet romantic notion. And the worst of this is that it is not that far off from our notions of heterosexual romantic love.
How much of this is female dis-empowerment? How much of this is financial dependency? How much of this is these two things linked together. When will these Prince Charming stereotypes be annihilated?
Women need to not feel limited or unworthy or inadequate. Doris Lessing wrote about this in her book THE MARRIAGES OF ZONES THREE FOUR AND FIVE. She uses archetypes of Patriarchal and Matriarchal societies to make her point. It is a very good read.
I don’t have these fantasies anymore.
Mostly I just try to believe in Myself and Others and in Love and Kindness.