Unresolved Anger and changing the blame game

We all have moments where we want to point the finger. But deep down we know WE could have done something different, and the outcome would have been transformed into something more healthy. By reacting without processing, evaluating and taking responsibility for our own choices, we create drama and perpetuate conflict in our personal relationships. If we instead can go inward and reflect on why these triggers continue to cause us pain, we will begin the healing journey. Otherwise we will only be driven by our need to have control over others to avoid pain and disappointment in the future, whether we know we are doing this or not. And we only have control over our own actions and thoughts. The beauty in this though, is that we do. If we can sit in our pain and our disillusionment and experience our grief, we can stop pointing the fingers at external sources of frustration and let others be as they need to be. It takes us beyond right and wrong and right back to knowing we can trust ourselves. Learning from our mistakes and being architects of our own lives requires our full attention and honesty. We have the freedom to change. There are relationships that will only continue to cause us pain and stress if we don’t re-define them. Once we take full responsibility for our own happiness, unresolved anger will slowly but surely dissipate and dissolve. For more information about letting go of emotional blockages visit my webpage at karadetracey.com

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