Its all about betrayal. That is where our triggers come from. Real or perceived, it doesn’t really matter. All experience is subjective and far from complete. So our truth leads us into danger. As we seek to resolve our childhood issues..there is still a landmine before us. Navigating without reaction is impossible when someone hits that spot through word or action. Then we do damage both to them, and ourselves as we lash out in a survival instict of sel defense. It can get messy and yet it can happen so quickly we can’t stop ourselves even though there may be a warning. Self preservation is paramount. And after things become calm and still we may be able to recognize a pattern. What was the betrayal that lead to this triggered reaction. Once you identify the issue at hand you can prepare yourself to not respond. At least until you have processed or asked the right questions or even just given the person the benefit of the doubt. Because trust is so important. Every time we lash out albeit in self defense. We destroy it. If you can go through your childhood experiences and know what hurt you most you can do your own analysis. Know your triggers. It is just self defense.
The world has been affected by many things, ongoing wars but not in our backyards, planetary disaster, considered only to be of concern for hippies until recently, poverty and exploitation as per usual, and starvation ongoing. But now, we have a dilemma that confronts us internationally which only the privileged will surmount. Those with access to clean water, clean air, good hospitals, government assistance, a job from home, a car and a nice place to live will be just fine. But that is on the physical level.
The emotional implications are different. For those of us who have suffered great loss and trauma, the Coronavirus represents much more than a period of social isolation and life adjustments. Trauma upon trauma hurts so much more. People who have worked hard to resolve their past pain and suffering will be hit much harder, in conversations, by the news, in their time alone, and in their intimate relationships. This is inevitable. And so while some people will be worried about their next meal, some people will be holding on tightly to their sanity. Please remember that despite all the hype and fear mongering that some people seem to thrive on, this is a situation that will get better. Do not allow this to unravel you. A form of mental discipline is needed right now to help us focus on other things so we can create balance. Now is a good time for writing, re-creating your career, downsizing your material life, planting a garden, forgiving someone you couldn’t before, trying a new health regime. We need to stay grounded to NOT be triggered. The trigger will always fail us. Trust in yourself but know what these are. And when you feel yourself reacting, ask yourself, is this one of my triggers? If you can identify it, you can surpass it. And all this drama will soon be over. You will come out of it stronger than ever.
The Emotion Code helps free defended people of their emotional armour. But what is a defended person? It begins with surviving some kind of attack. Our system responds to physical and emotional threats in the same way. It is our survival mechanism. And if there isn’t time to heal before another tragedy occurs, the person may begin constructing their heart wall. The wall is protective, but also closes us off emotionally from being able to deeply connect with others. It is both physical and emotional. We can also identify behaviours we call “triggers”. Whether it is us or others making someone walk on eggshells, worry about things they say, a lack of physical openness or warmth, or a complete distrust of others, there are many signs of a wounded person. But I believe we can deconstruct the wall and learn to love and trust again. Remember yourself as an innocent child. And know this is truly who you are. Namaste
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