We have all been there. Shocked at what someone said or did. So shocked in fact that we didn’t say or do anything about it.  It’s possible that this is a survival mechanism, but it is more likely to be a product of our socialization. We learn about little white lies from our own families. Lets not say anything about Dad being an alcoholic or how we really feel about ourselves. And you learn its not o.k. to speak the truth. And later, if someone else does, it’s very uncomfortable. All these suppressed emotions cause us harm. Our health, both mental and physical suffers because we keep things inside. Words need to be spoken out loud and our actions need to reflect them. I remember travelling in Nicaragua. I met a single mother there who was devastated by her reality. She wanted me to come back to Canada and tell everyone what was happening there. That the government was only giving one bag of beans and rice to each family a month. That the men had no legal responsibility to provide for their children. That there was no work. How could I possibly explain to her that we had our own problems such as debt and mortgages and car payments and dwindling industry. That we too suffer too from emotional bankruptcy. It just looks different.

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