Everyone has their natural rhythm which is central to successfully orchestrating their lives. Creating an environment that allows us to be authentic and strong is pinnacle for our mental health and well-being. It is what enables us to grow emotionally and establish who we are in the world. Connecting with others within this is essential, because being who we are, we set a natural boundary that says this is who I am in relation to you. People who are dominant or alpha challenge our rhythm. They push us off-course because of their need to be more important. Every relationship is unique and if we do not express our needs honestly, they will be hard to meet. One could interpret dominance as disrespectful but there will always be people who have a stronger need to say “look at me!” So the challenge lies not only in being true to ourselves, but also in how we communicate what our own needs are. No one can take care of us the way we can take care of ourselves. We know what we need. Dominant people can push things aside, distract us and throw us off kilter. But ultimately we need to take responsibility for the people we invite into our lives. Who do we love? And who loves us?